What's with women and comparing their financial status? All a whole lot of crap to me… Ok, I know our family was not very well-off but hey, I’m happy with that. So forgive me if I can’t understand my mother’s jealousy or need to talk about her bragging friend. Let’s just call her Aunt E.
Aunt E. apparently has a good but clingy husband, spendthrift but successful older son, and a practical but introvert younger son. So yeah, her family may be the look of a happy family with wealth, branded goods and success.
Problem is: She is always bragging about them, indirectly, though I’m not very sure if she’s doing it indirectly on purpose. But anyway, she has a few good points in her bragging but mostly I treat her ranting as South wind blowing.
My mother, on the other hand, was upset about her bragging. I think she was comparing her situation to Aunt E.’s and she came into my room just now to complain about her.
She barely started before I cut her off. “Why do you care so much about her and her bragging?”
And I continued with, “Her family’s rich, so what? Just heck care her and treat her as wind blowing. I see no reason for you to be so upset with her.”
“I’m just trying to start a conversation. Why on earth are you being so defensive for?”
The hell? O.o
From my POV, I see no reason for my mother’s jealousy. Aunt E. is a good contact if you need anything. Just treat her bragging as Er Bian Feng. Besides, she helped us a lot, though my mother paid her for her help. So yeah, she’s a good “business partner”. Don’t need to care about anything else.
Look at it this way, Aunt E. said her older son is successful as the chief editor of a prestigious magazine, etc. So what? IMO, from what I gathered based on her “bragging”, I think he is the sort who will help his mother but expected gains from it. He will not unconditionally help his own mother and from what I heard, he’s a spoilt brat in his late 30s.
Younger son is practical and quiet, who is good with IT stuff. But he can’t work to save his life. He ends up giving up once he has a bit of hard work. Too pampered, I guess.
I’m not saying they’re bad. But my point is, for certain things they may have more than us, but they are also lacking in others that we have more than them.
For aunt E., She has material wealth, but health-wise, I would say mum is better even though mum’s health is not very good as well.
Family wise, I don’t think Aunt E. is that close to her sisters as my mum is to her own family.
My point is, why do you wanna compare? Not that I can say much coz I’m a girl as well. But I think, if I’m happy with what I have, why should I compare with others? I see no reason to compare, and I told this straight to my mum’s face, who immediately said that I have an attitude problem (or something along that line, she says this every time I disagrees with her on anything)
Shi Hui said that my reply was “just like a guy’s, in a psychology term”. I should have listened to my mum complain and then offer some console. According to her, women don’t want concrete solution, they want someone to hear them.
Mum had promptly said that Shi Hui was a better daughter than I was, after I showed her what Shi Hui wrote.
OUCH…. NOT! Of course I’m not a better daughter! I’m more of a guy, in a thinking sense. So yeah… I want ideas, solutions, comfort, in that order… Not Comfort, comfort, comfort… Yeap, fat lot of good comfort is if it can’t solve problems…
So don't come to me for comfort. I'm not good at it. Come to me if you need ideas to solve your problems. On the other hand, don't come to me for ideas as well. I don't need other people's problems on my hands. Sound bitchy? get used to it.
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